Hello and welcome to my blog. Wan Here. Today I will be talking about women, God's most amazing creation.
Women in my Life:
My experience with women has been that of a bittersweet experience. I mean, growing up in a country like Nigeria (in the "eighties") could be rather hard on a little guy who has no knowledge about girls and their passions. I found out to my surprise that what guys fancy most could be quite irritating to the ladies. For example, a game/sport like soccer. Being one of the better players on the field at the age of ten didn't get me the desired attention from the girls as I thought it would have. Yes the girls cheered and even hugged when I made a goal, but that was where it ends. As I was shy and couldn't keep their interest long enough, other boys (who weren't as good as I was in the game) easily swept them of their feet with their charisma.
So as I grew older, I always find myself stuck to a quick-fix kind of relationships with women. It didn't matter that I was good looking or gently. They always find one problem or the other with me (much as I can say of them). Because of these, I was always on the watch for heartbreakers. I had to find a way to overcome this problem though.
The ladies in my life nevertheless were the best I could have wished for even if I only had their love temporarily. If they ever come across my web log, I hope they know that they meant so much to me and I still love them. Oh Well!!
The Hype About Women
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys? Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. I mean, common what is going on here?
Guys believe me then when I tell you that women could be an enigma of sort. Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. Now you see where are going with this! That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
MY ASSERTION ABOUT ALL WOMEN.
Women are like our driving force. We would feel incomplete without them. Every once in a while, (at work, play or anywhere) our minds drift back to our wives, girlfriends, even our date or certain lady we desire. We change our hairstyles, dress code and even our attitudes just to please them. We find ourselves constantly changing because of this that it sort of drives us crazy to an extent.
And we wonder who is in control. In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), we guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". HORRIBLE idea!! Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
THE ESSENCE.
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested? What is the rule to please women? The basic rules of dating? What have i been doing wrong all the while and why wasn't I getting dates as I should?
The point is... You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it. If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
QUESTION!!
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection”. A! HA!
So what I have I done lately?? I made a thorough research on the subject so i can confidently proclaim now that I have found the key. It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone. No more worries, no more lonely nights!!!
From my research, I have compiled a comprehensive analysis of what most guys have not been doing right all along to win women to their side. Here are some of the articles on the subject:
BASICS.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
Body Language.
Now, since reading a woman's body language is only part of the solution to getting her attention, it is pertinent that men must understand and interpret this signs they give out. And I'm not talking about glaring at a woman so it's obvious, or licking your lips! I'm talking about the teasing, the tantalizing, and the posturing you need to do to show you're worth her time. Of course, you can never know enough about what signal a woman is sending you, or how you need to respond to them. But you can show off your Interest and see how they respond.
Here are proven "Seven Lucky" best ways to show interest:
The confident eye gaze
The "Dale Head Drop"
Smile!
Open body language
Lean in to her
Thumbs in belt
Touch her
Any of these goes a long way in arousing the lady's interest. Now I am no guru of any kind but like I said theses are some of the tested techniques proven over time by experts.
Let's look at each in details:
1. The confident eye gaze
This is how you start your interest. Nothing shows confidence off the bat like meeting a girl's eyes, and KEEPING YOUR STARE. If you see her look down and smile, you know you've made it and the time to approach is now. If she looks away from you but doesn’t smile, give her a shot nonetheless; just the fact that she met your eyes for a second or two shows interest.
2. The Dale Head Drop
So named after the guy who mastered the art of getting women rushing to his side, just with a simple shrug! If you really want to blow away a girl--and show some balls--meet a girl's eyes, then knowingly drop your head to the side, as if to say, "Hey, you know you want me. Come over here and get me!" I've found this to work incredibly well in foreign countries. In the States, the girls tend to be able to see through it a bit more--but it still works!
3. Smile!
It's often overlooked, but nothing communicates happiness, confidence, and interest in a girl all in one like a nice big smile. Show the girl you're in control, show her you're confident, and show her you're a fun guy to be around: brighten the place up with flash of teeth! And if your teeth need work, then get them fixed! It's good not just for your chances of meeting a girl, but also for your health and appearance!
4. Open Body Language
So many guys walk or sit with their arms crossed, their legs close together, and their faces anxious and flat. Stop that! Welcome a girl into your world: Have your arms open and leaned back, your legs open and relaxed, your face warm and inviting. You'll not only attract yourself into a girl's world, but also into the world of people at a party, club, or bar who can help you meet a future girlfriend--or even wife!
5. Lean in to her
As you're talking to a girl, especially while seated, show her your interest with confidence by leaning in closer. You don't want to be a creep, of course, but you can generally tell by a girl's body language and talk how interested she is in you. If things are looking good, show her your control of the situation--and interest in her--by leaning in and generally getting closer to her. Leaning back does the opposite; it shows you're unconfident and not overly interested. Not what you want to communicate.
6. Thumbs in belt
Ever put your thumbs in your belt, with your hands at your hips’ side? This is processed as a sign of being confident in one's sexuality and size. So if you're standing around at a bar or club and want to convey confidence, girls will certainly understand this!
7. Touch her!
Yep, nothing gets you closer to a girl than physical touch. Great conversations and emotional/spiritual chemistry are great, but if you really want to take it to the next level, you'll have to eventually show some balls and touch her. I'm not talking about grabbing her and making out (unless it really is going that well and she's flirting out of control!), but doing little things: brushing your arm by her shoulders, lightly massaging her, leading her by the hand to another location in the place. By making a physical connection, you're giving her a sign loud and clear that you're confident in yourself and interested in her. END OF ANALYSIS
WOMEN AND MATERIALISM
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
What do women want?
The answer isn't easy to come by. There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old; fat, skinny; talkative, quiet; beautiful...not so beautiful. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. It's enough to drive a man crazy! We want to know so badly what it is women desire that Hollywood addressed the age-old question with the movie:
“What Women Want”.
So, surely...there must be something ALL women want?
PERSONALITY TRAITS
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...There are certain qualities every woman can appreciate. And as men, that's what we need to focus on most. Not on what we THINK they want, but on what we can KNOW they want. Maybe we think being 6"5", wealthy, and jacked like a football player is what every woman wants, but (thankfully) it's not. Only certain women want that, and the groupies who only want a millionaire athlete on steroids usually aren't even worth your time. Well, YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
End of Excerpts
The way to go
I believe that there is other things men can do to better promote their image and get women to love and cherish them. I also believe that with women, it depends on the effort you make to get their attention and keep it on you. But best of all, you do not have to do anything to get a woman to like or respect you. All you need to do is be yourself. Women will love you better for that than being a pretender just to get their attention. When they find out, you are out in the cold. A real woman will love a man for what he is and nothing more.
Women in my Life:
My experience with women has been that of a bittersweet experience. I mean, growing up in a country like Nigeria (in the "eighties") could be rather hard on a little guy who has no knowledge about girls and their passions. I found out to my surprise that what guys fancy most could be quite irritating to the ladies. For example, a game/sport like soccer. Being one of the better players on the field at the age of ten didn't get me the desired attention from the girls as I thought it would have. Yes the girls cheered and even hugged when I made a goal, but that was where it ends. As I was shy and couldn't keep their interest long enough, other boys (who weren't as good as I was in the game) easily swept them of their feet with their charisma.
So as I grew older, I always find myself stuck to a quick-fix kind of relationships with women. It didn't matter that I was good looking or gently. They always find one problem or the other with me (much as I can say of them). Because of these, I was always on the watch for heartbreakers. I had to find a way to overcome this problem though.
The ladies in my life nevertheless were the best I could have wished for even if I only had their love temporarily. If they ever come across my web log, I hope they know that they meant so much to me and I still love them. Oh Well!!
The Hype About Women
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys? Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. I mean, common what is going on here?
Guys believe me then when I tell you that women could be an enigma of sort. Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. Now you see where are going with this! That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
MY ASSERTION ABOUT ALL WOMEN.
Women are like our driving force. We would feel incomplete without them. Every once in a while, (at work, play or anywhere) our minds drift back to our wives, girlfriends, even our date or certain lady we desire. We change our hairstyles, dress code and even our attitudes just to please them. We find ourselves constantly changing because of this that it sort of drives us crazy to an extent.
And we wonder who is in control. In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), we guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". HORRIBLE idea!! Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
THE ESSENCE.
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested? What is the rule to please women? The basic rules of dating? What have i been doing wrong all the while and why wasn't I getting dates as I should?
The point is... You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it. If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
QUESTION!!
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection”. A! HA!
So what I have I done lately?? I made a thorough research on the subject so i can confidently proclaim now that I have found the key. It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone. No more worries, no more lonely nights!!!
From my research, I have compiled a comprehensive analysis of what most guys have not been doing right all along to win women to their side. Here are some of the articles on the subject:
BASICS.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
Body Language.
Now, since reading a woman's body language is only part of the solution to getting her attention, it is pertinent that men must understand and interpret this signs they give out. And I'm not talking about glaring at a woman so it's obvious, or licking your lips! I'm talking about the teasing, the tantalizing, and the posturing you need to do to show you're worth her time. Of course, you can never know enough about what signal a woman is sending you, or how you need to respond to them. But you can show off your Interest and see how they respond.
Here are proven "Seven Lucky" best ways to show interest:
The confident eye gaze
The "Dale Head Drop"
Smile!
Open body language
Lean in to her
Thumbs in belt
Touch her
Any of these goes a long way in arousing the lady's interest. Now I am no guru of any kind but like I said theses are some of the tested techniques proven over time by experts.
Let's look at each in details:
1. The confident eye gaze
This is how you start your interest. Nothing shows confidence off the bat like meeting a girl's eyes, and KEEPING YOUR STARE. If you see her look down and smile, you know you've made it and the time to approach is now. If she looks away from you but doesn’t smile, give her a shot nonetheless; just the fact that she met your eyes for a second or two shows interest.
2. The Dale Head Drop
So named after the guy who mastered the art of getting women rushing to his side, just with a simple shrug! If you really want to blow away a girl--and show some balls--meet a girl's eyes, then knowingly drop your head to the side, as if to say, "Hey, you know you want me. Come over here and get me!" I've found this to work incredibly well in foreign countries. In the States, the girls tend to be able to see through it a bit more--but it still works!
3. Smile!
It's often overlooked, but nothing communicates happiness, confidence, and interest in a girl all in one like a nice big smile. Show the girl you're in control, show her you're confident, and show her you're a fun guy to be around: brighten the place up with flash of teeth! And if your teeth need work, then get them fixed! It's good not just for your chances of meeting a girl, but also for your health and appearance!
4. Open Body Language
So many guys walk or sit with their arms crossed, their legs close together, and their faces anxious and flat. Stop that! Welcome a girl into your world: Have your arms open and leaned back, your legs open and relaxed, your face warm and inviting. You'll not only attract yourself into a girl's world, but also into the world of people at a party, club, or bar who can help you meet a future girlfriend--or even wife!
5. Lean in to her
As you're talking to a girl, especially while seated, show her your interest with confidence by leaning in closer. You don't want to be a creep, of course, but you can generally tell by a girl's body language and talk how interested she is in you. If things are looking good, show her your control of the situation--and interest in her--by leaning in and generally getting closer to her. Leaning back does the opposite; it shows you're unconfident and not overly interested. Not what you want to communicate.
6. Thumbs in belt
Ever put your thumbs in your belt, with your hands at your hips’ side? This is processed as a sign of being confident in one's sexuality and size. So if you're standing around at a bar or club and want to convey confidence, girls will certainly understand this!
7. Touch her!
Yep, nothing gets you closer to a girl than physical touch. Great conversations and emotional/spiritual chemistry are great, but if you really want to take it to the next level, you'll have to eventually show some balls and touch her. I'm not talking about grabbing her and making out (unless it really is going that well and she's flirting out of control!), but doing little things: brushing your arm by her shoulders, lightly massaging her, leading her by the hand to another location in the place. By making a physical connection, you're giving her a sign loud and clear that you're confident in yourself and interested in her. END OF ANALYSIS
WOMEN AND MATERIALISM
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
What do women want?
The answer isn't easy to come by. There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old; fat, skinny; talkative, quiet; beautiful...not so beautiful. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. It's enough to drive a man crazy! We want to know so badly what it is women desire that Hollywood addressed the age-old question with the movie:
“What Women Want”.
So, surely...there must be something ALL women want?
PERSONALITY TRAITS
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...There are certain qualities every woman can appreciate. And as men, that's what we need to focus on most. Not on what we THINK they want, but on what we can KNOW they want. Maybe we think being 6"5", wealthy, and jacked like a football player is what every woman wants, but (thankfully) it's not. Only certain women want that, and the groupies who only want a millionaire athlete on steroids usually aren't even worth your time. Well, YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
End of Excerpts
The way to go
I believe that there is other things men can do to better promote their image and get women to love and cherish them. I also believe that with women, it depends on the effort you make to get their attention and keep it on you. But best of all, you do not have to do anything to get a woman to like or respect you. All you need to do is be yourself. Women will love you better for that than being a pretender just to get their attention. When they find out, you are out in the cold. A real woman will love a man for what he is and nothing more.
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