63 Tips for Happy Families

Without an understanding, may not find happiness palace built as expected.Family piety to be the determinant of a nation upholding the peace, prosperity and peace. Part of the perfection of happiness in the world is having a happy family.Property is one who loves his family he was always patient to teach morals and faith of his family.

Let millions across the barrier, but if it is written with love and affection that two people may be, would he find the lasting integrity.In browsing the household together, definitely a lot of ups have traveled. Only those who are strong, resilient and capable of confronting all the happiness to be lifted.Motivation and family consultant, Dato 'Dr Hj Mohd Fadzilah Kamsah provides 63 tips that will be a practice of visiting a married couple households.

1. Prayers continued.2. Abiding faith in religion.3. Cheap credit.4. Cheaper to service.5. Cheap with caresses of affection.6. Cheap touch.7. Find a good partner.8. Find the time to communicate, talk or joking.9. Looking good and self-improvement of each argument.10. Respecting the limits, boundaries or the private partner.11. Assess yourself from the perspective of the couple.12. Open-minded - can be commented reprimand.13. Emotional risk-taking - firmware / change / split up temporarily.14. Assess and prioritize in life.15. Compromise.16. Respect and take into account the 'intuition' (Intuition) women.17. Not merely materialistic pursuit.18. Aware that the conflict is sometimes inevitable.19. Change themselves to stimulate changes in the pair.20. Willing to sacrifice for the couple.21. Respect for the pair.22. Feel very lucky (and state) got a couple there.23. Sexual relations are healthy and acceptable.24. Respecting differences in self-pair.25. Always forgiveness before bed.26. Always think well about the future.27. Putting the rights of the spouse.28. Not to be a slave to the couple.29. Small change to increase happiness.30. Controlling anger. Create an agreement.31. Find solutions in situations of 'win-win'.32. Related reflection to find the source of the problem.33. Respecting the nature of the couple.34. Understanding the role of 'spouse'.35. Relationship feelings among couples.36. Do not store the discontent, sadness, anger or hatred in my heart.37. Code form of love and you alone know.38. Deliberately designed to improve the relationship of husband and wife.39. Seven times a blessing and a reprimand.40. Say the 'I love you' all the time.41. Plenty of jokes and mingling.42. Always forthright.43. Give time for changes to occur - be patient.44. Avoid arguing for the search for truth.45. Avoid one pair.46. Find the meeting point.47. Solve this day today.48. More to give than to receive.49. Ask for advice, opinions or feedback from partners.50. Always eager - wake up, go to work, working back and forth.51. Balancing the relationship in terms of:

    * Mental, education and science
    * Emotions
    * Physical and economic
    * Social
    * Spiritual
52. Do not away too long (unless forced).53. Not too suppressed.54. Did not act alone.55. Provide opportunities to differ:

    * The opinions or views
    * Hobbies
    * Favorites
    * Food
    * Taste
    * The color of choice and variety
56. Humor or joke from time to time.57. Ask for help to break the negative cycle.58. Insight and perspective into the future (do not get stuck with the problem).59. Do not ask for a non-non.60. The form of laws or regulations in the household.61. Something different and positive change.62. Avoid abusive spouse in any way.63. Redha, gratitude and trust in God s.w.t.

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Tip challenges facing the world romance

World of romance is exciting. Its presence is difficult rejected, especially when it came without warning. Without the power of faith and a clear focus, one canFire swept away and drowned in the excitement. Thus tip would like to share ideas and views in dealing with a love for it will not damage the good future.
1. love is the norm that will be felt by anyone when it comes time. It camethe soul as a complement to the exciting life people to build outward and inward communication.

2. but love is built from the desires alone will make a loss considerationsmind and spirit so willing to sacrifice anything. Hence, make your best choice for the future.

3. Islam prohibits its followers never be in love but let it be with religious guidelines. It includes not disregard or dismiss the parents' family.

4. errors in translating the feeling of lovethe people will make a trappedwith feelings that are no longer able to considergood or bad.

5. love the clean will give birth to the treatmentalways maintain the sanctity and not contaminated withThe gross symptoms. but love is built onfeelings of sincere and responsible will bearlife is a true delight.

6. not easily influenced by propaganda of love. Thisfor affection and love is not merely involvephysically but emotionally and spiritually to leadsometimes love can go away.

7. true love was created for a healthy life andPeace. In love, human life cancontinue and produce a generation who will inheritculture well and maintained a perfect life

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exemplary wife

YOUR PERSONAL exemplary


Obedient and dutiful to her husband

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Prophet said:

"As soon as women are when you look at him and he happy, if you obey his commands, if you are not he will take care of your possessions and keep the honor."

The wise Muslim woman always wants to please Allah by obedience to her husband in matters that are not sinful, devoted to her husband and always tried to please her husband. He will be pleased with the inconvenience or hardship of his life, as has been noted in the history of personal unggulnya Islm Fatimah
r.ha.

The true Muslim woman, willing to serve in the house for her and her husband knew right into it. Indeed it
is right that the great Messenger as saying.:


"If I want to order seseorg bow down to someone else, I would have ordered women prostrate
to her husband. "
(Hadith Sahih narrated Hassan Tarmidzi)

Adherence is a major cause of the woman as saying Allah's paradise:

"When a woman has five daily prayers, fasting in the month, obedient to her husband, keeping her vagina,
would say to him: Go into the garden from any door you like. "

(Narrated by Ibn Majah)


In addition, Islam also threatened by sin, the wrath and curse of the woman who turned out this warning:

"When a man calls his wife kekatilnya but he refused to come to him, and her husband sleep in
the angels would surely upset him so melaknatnya dawn (morning). "
(Sahih Muslim)

The wife and Privacy Solehah

- Obedience to her husband and Kindness
- Kindness To Mother-in-law and family HONOR
- Be friendly with the Trying to Find a Husband and Pleasure
- Do not Break The key
- Stand up and Share Views With his side.
- Helps men obey Allah
- Mastering the Mental husband
- Decorated For Husband
- Found in joy and gratitude Husband
- Sharing of Grief and Joy Husband
- In addition to men stare down
- Not Telling The Other Woman to husband.
- Creating Peace, relaxation and peace of Households
- Tolerant and forgiving
- Strong personality and Wisdom



"And among His signs is that He created his wives for you from yourselves, that ye may
tend to find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and affection. Indeed, in that there really are signs for people who think. "

[Surah Ar-Rum 30:21]





HOW TO BE WISE exemplary



1. Play any role in the balance of her as a wife, lover, friend, support, encouragement, advice, listeners, educators and pendoa.

2. Always loyal to all the husbands in all things that are allowed by Islamic law. But she did not have to obey in matters involving disobedience.

3. Treat every husband needs carefully, especially sexual needs. For husbands, sexual relations were evidence and strengthen the rule of love is important.

4. Understand the husband and a lot of red tape to be patient. Use of existing impulse in the women themselves to understand the needs and expectations without the husband called.

5. Teach her husband about what you'd expect in wisdom. Sometimes you have to remind her husband up to 200 times for him to understand clearly. Be patient when giving orders to her husband.

6. Decorated and make sure you always neat and attractive to their husbands. Discuss with your spouse the way he looks like. Do it at will.

7. Forgive her husband and another person each night before bed and ask for forgiveness from her husband. Kemaafannya clean heart, heal the sick, the beautification of the face, attracting love and prayer.

8. Pray for her husband all the time. Prayer strengthen your spirit with the spirit of her husband. Subsequently formed a deep affection and lasting.

9. Make sure your husband than to the parents or others. But make sure you are polite to the parents to get good fortune.

10. Blessed is the birth of a reasonable total. Take care and educate children as possible. Do not expect others too to educate your child.

11. Make sure your husband and ask permission each time out of their homes or seek permission in the long term. Out without a permit is guilty.

12. Avoid the queen control. The Prophet said, husband and wife are forced to obey the household will perish and be destroyed.

13. Look her husband with a gentle, smiling, sweet words, touch, hear cakapnya and hugs him while commuting to work.
14. Temankan husband to eat while you're eating. Many husbands feel neglected when forced to eat alone often. Eat a meal with her husband.

15. Occasional bathing with her husband. This helps to bring love and intimacy between husband and wife. Bathing with the sunna.

16. Treat her husband with love and care when sick. A touch of sweet words and a positive act as a potent medicine.

17. Mengalahlah to the husband for the things that should be. Frustrated husband and wife is less credible when the fight or refuse to obey instructions. This causes the husband of stress.

18. Cover yourself against any other man. Make sure you cover the private parts thoroughly to the success of the world and the hereafter.

19. Beloved husband completely and fortify myself a husband. Your husband is the best man for you to follow God's plan. And you are the best woman for your husband.

20. Keep the secrets of her husband. There is a wife without a husband so bad to tell a friend or other family members. This act is wrong and sinful.

21. God does not see his wife who is not grateful for the good of her husband. Therefore, be thankful for a husband to do good.

22. Most of the inhabitants of hell are women because many women who swear curse and are ungrateful to their husbands. Avoid treason or sabotage her husband.

23. Avoid hurting the husband to act lazy, fight, insult, complain, enslave her husband, arrogant, or do things that husbands forbid.

24. Do not accept guests who are not muhrim when her husband not at home. This practice will destroy the family.

25. Surprise her husband to pray night and his wife were also similar to the night prayer. It is an interesting practice guides and explains the grave.

26. In the case of polygamy, do not tell your honey to divorce her husband. This is a very big mistake. Learn to be patient and shared securely.

27. The wife requested a divorce without any sail, will not enter paradise. Therefore, do not ask for divorce if there is no reason that allowed Islamic law.
28. The fort itself from Shaitan, the reading Basmalah, ta'awuz, section chair, praying 5 times, always in a state of ablution and read the Fatihah with paragraph 3 'Qul'.

29. Maintain a personal sense of shame in women. Sense of shame for a good man. Sense of shame for women it is very good. Women who lost sense of shame due dignity and dignity.

30. When husbands work back, give him a rest 30 minutes before asking lots of questions. Pass on good news and bad news less.

31. Make the Quran as a friend in the face of problems, anxiety and pain. Eat well isyrak and sun worship.

32. Repentance now before its too late. Tree apology from her husband all the time because usually the husband predeceases the wife.

33. Stay away from bad feelings towards her husband thought, law, law duai, neighbors and others. What we think is acting as a prayer and may occur.

34. Think well to all the provisions of God. Determine what God is best for us and for all those around us. People do not seem ignorant of this fact.

35. Meet all of the rights of God. What God asked, do everything. Completely avoid what is prohibited. What God gave us to get pleased and grateful.

36. Identify the root causes of our anger. Are we too sensitive, disorder, depressed, not being appreciated, people take our rights, and marriage problems. After knowing the source, we easily solve the problem.

37. Understand the effects of anger. Ugly face, heart disease, high blood pressure, flu, viral infections, brittle bones, dead lust, broken household. Thus, control anger.

38. Mingle with the good people. Find new friends. People have many good friends do not fail in the world and the hereafter. To get a good friend, be a good friend.

39. Make the law at home. When husbands get angry, we are quiet and patient. When we are angry, her husband was silent, patient, and coax us. Seventeen people are great signs of maturity.

40. Rusty heart medication with prayers of repentance, forgiveness, read the Quran, charity, sorry, forgive all the people, give people food and make friends with the pious or good things.
41. Welcomes the husband all the time with a fun way. Float away before opening the door welcoming the return of her husband. Give water and squeeze the neck and shoulders of her husband every evening.

42. A soft voice to cure and treat mental pressures faced by the husband. Indahkan and soften the sound each time talking to her husband.

43. When having sex with her husband, the best display. As far as possible meet the requirements of the husband. The husband felt very disappointed and hurt when the motion was rejected.

44. Angry husband chosen with wisdom. Do not answer even though we are right. Explain the real thing when the husband has subsided. Households were destroyed when the husband and wife co-ego.

45. Always honored her husband. Treat them like family. When our dear husband, we must honor those that we love her husband.

46. Jealousy is the nature of the believers and love mark. But her husband was jealous over the all-one and depressed. Continue to feel jealous when I pray that God saved our marriage.

47. Wife exemplary restraint from committing any sin. Small sins repeated a great sin. Immediately turn on the sin.

48. Do not let evil happen in our homes. Messages on themselves and family members to avoid evil. When do evil, God doth not at home.

49. Daily practice is the best wife exemplary prayer of repentance, forgiveness 70 times, the prayer intention, to forgive all people, think well of everyone and pray for your family and all our neighbors.

50. Balancing life with a clean heart, to correct the practice, making friends with good people, keep praying, blessing food, exercise and do all things possible.

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The main contributor to the happiness of family wife

Assalamualaikum wbt .. In the Quran explained that marriage makes husband and wife to live with full of warmth that can lead to peace of mind and feelings. Marriage can also lead to husband and the wife will feel calm and love which can lead to compassion. 


A statement is no doubt that the best pleasures live in this world is a virtuous woman or wife as described by the Prophet Muhammad. Peace and happiness of life is linked closely with woman or wife and the happiness of a home There is a close relationship with the woman or wife and good deeds.
How to evaluate a good woman before married? In this case, the Prophet has stated by saying: "those who grow up in married atmosphere of righteousness, that the child has a habit of a close relationship with his parents.

"How to choose a spouse, a woman who lives in an atmosphere works, born of a noble and a seed sons of a prosperous, pious or good atmosphere including the three cases, daily life, family and good character.
Bedewi Yusof Ali, Yusuf Ali Bedewi, (Translated), Mohd Asri Muda Hashim and Abd Latif, the book Fundamentals Household Happiness In Islam, Da'wah Foundation Islamiah Malaysia, Kuala Lumpur, 1996, pp, 42. lists of women who have shunned the chosen to be a wife of the Al-Annanah means that women who complain a lot and every time feels burdened head when doing the jobwhether for himself or herself or for her husband.
In addition, Al-Mannanah also means that women bob up and down what was done to her husband, for example, I do this and that for you and for you while the next factor is that women's al-Hannanah The people longed for a husband, or children from partnership (marriage) with another man.
Meanwhile, Al-Haddaqah nor are women when see something, she would like to have with him is would urge, urge and compel the husband to buy it.
Next feature is the Al-Barraqah of women 24 hours spent in front of the vanity soface make-up looks interesting result is, not for her but for personal satisfaction and the Al-syaddaqah other women talk of magpies, nag that much because a lot of talking say the words that may offend husband and others.
Women like this, let us also with women who did not will be satisfied with giving her husband, but each of husbands has always denied.
In addition to the characteristics of a bad lifestyle women, there are other properties that need to be a bad man be careful when choosing a life partner, including women are not good at adapting to other people.
After his wife called, she was difficult to adapt to the environment above all Household again with her family, so had to control the husband of kindness to his parents. Wife that prevent good husband to his parents was the wife who will fail in creating happiness family.
Women are often bob up and down any of husband of the mother and often weigh by itself is not getting any of the her husband, while her husband was giving more than adequate, and her husband had given such a requested.
The Prophet Muhammad cautioned that men selecting women who are often grateful for of husbands and are always satisfied with what was prepared by the husband as saying:
 "Women The most blessed, most were women easy to bear. "
(narrated by Ahmad).
There are also properties that may be extreme contributed to the hatred of the husband to the wife, the wife of stinginess and miserliness. This is because the wife stingy or miserly husband hard to stay real ringgitnya money, not to mention relatives in the the husband.
Wives, when husbands or parents for advice or Fiscal often argue, is among the wives of difficult to accept the advice or guidance.
Objected to invite argument and growing resentment lazy husband who makes her husband for advice, reprimand or talk to her. Attitude object also planted hatred, resentment, frustration, and depressed the will end with the destruction of the household.

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TIPS TO OVERCOME DROP LOVE

Not everything we wanted to accomplish.not everything we planned to be successful we do.Similarly, in the world of romance.Too many things we have to face and learn in love.

But if we had tried, but a mate is not on our side. nor our sense of disappointment and despair. certainly not to blame fate. because the people who believe we must believe that what happened was because of God. That qadak and Qadar which has been set.

Nor made the failure of love as the end of our lives. Continue working for myself and this life is so precious. Surely no human differences in the eyes of Allah swt ..

DROP LOVE TIPS TO OVERCOME: 

1. Go back to him - including plenty of religious circumcision. Take more time with him. 

2. Always remember that the provisions of Alla h mate - think of all that happened is a test from Allah and no good comes from it. Verily, Allah does not decrease if the test His servants can not afford to bear.Have patience. 

3. Ask for advice parents or close - Parents are the best at giving advice because it was felt and parcel of life and know what is best for us. If you feel embarrassed or afraid to seek advice from their parents, at least Share your problem with the immediate and close like a good friend. Do pendamkan in the liver, will increasingly suffer themselves. 

4. Discard all about her - If you can not afford to throw your memories together, letaklah away from the corner of your eyes so you do not feel sad and want to go back to it. Remove her number and all messages in your phone. 

5. Sibukkan self   - Do whatever works best in your life so you do not think much about it. If there are activities, involve themselves.Therefore can reduce the distress that hit. 

6. Muhasabah yourself - Do not Include feelings, accept the fact that he is not for you. There are better.

7. Shoal with a lot of people - not because you do not want a breakup mix. However, your social self as a Muslim. Adding contacts is better to strengthen the fraternity. In addition you will feel sad breakup will disappear little by little. 

We hope that what happens in this life Together blessed with sincere hearts. because it makes us feel more relaxed and stronger to face failure in love. Know that God is never once to be wrong on the slave.Even he knows is best for His servants.

May happen that ye hate a thing which is good for you, and may be (too) ye love a thing which is bad for you, Allah knows and you do not know.(Surah. Al Baqarah: 216)

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Where is the value of loyalty?

The story featured is the result of a shipment from a friend. Re-written to look for us to take advantages implicit in this story.We hope that all the good that could be a guideline for us .... 

That morning, the clinic is very busy. At about 9:30 am a man aged 70-s   came to open the stitches on his finger injury in the mother. I set up equipment   and asked him to wait, because all the doctors are busy, maybe he just   can be treated at least 1 hour.   
While waiting, the old man seems uneasy, intermittently looking at his watch. I feel sorry. So when I was busy trying to check   wound, and it seems quite good and dry, just go and put stitches   The new bandage. The work is not too difficult, so the consent of doctors,   I decided to do it yourself ..   
While treating the wound, I asked him if he got another promise to appear   hurry. The old man replied no, he wanted to place to eat   lunch with his wife, as he does everyday. He told   that his wife has been treated there since some time and her suffering   Alzheimer's disease.   

Then I asked whether his wife would be angry if he came too late. He answered   that his wife was no longer able to recognize it since last 5 years. I am very   surprised and said,? and uncles still go there every day even though his wife's uncle   do not know anymore? He smiled when his hands began to clap my hands and said, He does not know me, but I still know him, right?   
I continue to hold the tears until the uncle was gone, I was amazed. Love is what I want in my life?   Love is certainly not the physical or romantic. True love is to receive   What happens there now, that has happened, will happen, and that   will never happen.   
For me this experience presents an important message: The most   happiness does not have to have the best of everything, they just do the best with what they have.   Life is not just the storms,   but how is still dancing in the rain.?  


Hopefully this story is displayed along with us to reflect upon ourselves. whether we love just for fun or ready to assume responsibility for making love .. because we know .. This life is not as easy as we thought and also not as easy as we planned .. too many obstacles as we pursue the challenge of happiness .. 

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