Sunday, April 18, 2010

Short Men Can't Get Girlfriends? That's a Tall Story!

There may have been plenty of surveys alleging that taller men find it much easier to get a girlfriend, or wife, and stay single for less time than their vertically challenged counterparts, but does the reality bear this out?

For, when you start to think about it, the list of successful shorter chaps with willowy women on their arm seems almost endless.

Mick Jagger, for example, at 5ft 10ins, is stepping out with fashion stylist L'Wren Scott, six inches taller than him. He has also dated model Sophie Dahl, another six footer, and been married to beauty Jerry Hall.

Sophie, for her part, has now hit the right note with jazz singer Jamie Cullum, who's six inches shorter than Jagger.

Rod Stewart, the same height as the Rolling Stone, stands three inches shorter than his partner, leggy blonde model Penny Lancaster.

There's even more of a gap between Formula One racing tycoon Bernie Ecclestone and wife Slavica - a whole foot. But that hasn't stopped 5ft 2ins tall Bernie measuring up in her eyes.
And actress Brigitte Neilsen towers over husband Mattia Dessi.

There may be shorter height differences between some other celebrity couples, but it's there nonetheless. Film star Tom Cruise, at 5ft 7ins, is two inches shorter than his wife Katie Holmes, while there is a slightly larger gap between film director Roman Polanski and lofty wife Emmanuelle Seigner and novelist Salman Rushdie and ex-wife Padma Lakshmi.

The list goes on. Height hasn't stood in the way of the career or love life of the pint-sized French President Nicolas Sarkozy, who at 5ft 5ins tall, is married to former model Carla Bruni-Sarkozy, reportedly four inches taller.

Another Hollywood star, 53-year-old Oscar winner Mel Gibson, is expecting a child with his girlfriend, Russian singer Oksana Grigorieva, 14 years his junior. Mel's height is the subject of some dispute, but he's definitely under six foot, while his other half is a beanpole.
Similarly, Billy Joel, just 5ft 5ins tall, has had no trouble finding girlfriends and wives, including Katie Lee and supermodel Christine Brinkley, who, of course, are both much taller than him. (Brinkley is 5ft 9ins.)

There have been many reasons put forward for the reasons for the pulling power of shorter chaps. Some of them are downright patronising - 'taller women prefer shorter guys because they're just more grateful' - wrote one journalist.

Far more plausibly, some say women just appreciate the compact sex appeal of less-than-lofty blokes. (Think Robert De Niro and James Dean.) Others reasons put forward for their success in love are that shorter guys are funnier, more ambitious, better providers, more mature, less likely to be cads and less in love with themselves.

But, whatever the reason, short man/tall woman partnerships are a well-established trend, and they're here to say. So, if you're a diminutive male, having a girlfriend several inches higher than you needn't be a problem, or a tall order. At all.
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Monday, April 12, 2010

Get Him to Love You

Are you trying to get him to love you? Does it seem like a hopeless endeavor and you're ready to give up? Have you been through too many failed relationships and you don't know what to try anymore? The dating game can get nasty sometimes and it's easy to get heartbroken and ultimately become embittered. But know that love is out there and the perfect man for you is waiting to meet you. You just have to know what to do to win him over when you do see him.

The worst thing you can do is try to rush into this. Chic flicks and romance novels give the impression that love is fast and comes easily, but real life rarely works out that way. You need to give yourself time and the more patient you are, the truer the love will be.

Look at it this way. If you meet a guy and you have a preconceived notion that you'll want to marry him within two months, you're setting unrealistic goals, you're going to feel the pressure to win him over fast and you'll end up putting too much stress and strain on what could be a great relationship. Too much strain and the guy will buckle under and give up.

Most guys don't want a relationship to be that strenuous.Give yourself six months to just get to know the guy. It might seem like a long time, but it's over the course of this time that you'll really discover who this guy is. You'll see him in a variety of settings and in a various situations, each one divulging a little more about who he is. And know that he's doing the same to you. He's checking you out, gauging how good you make him feel while he's with you and over the course of this time his emotions are slowly building, all without an ounce of pressure from you.

When he realizes that you have all the qualities he's been looking for and he sees that you continue to be fun to be with, his heart will open up and he'll fall in love with you.
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Wednesday, April 7, 2010

3 Essential Tips In Planning A Wedding

Countless options are available when it comes to planning a wedding. But if you really want to have a fabulous wedding, why not have a destination wedding package? You and your guests will surely enjoy the getaway. If you want this kind of wedding, it is ideal to seek help from weddin gplanners because they will show you different ideas on how you can save money since you are given the opportunity to customize your wedding as much as you can as long as it is really what you want. Of course, you will also have the wedding of your dreams.

It is a fact that planning a wedding can be very stressful especially for the couple. If the bride does all the preparation, she will be so stressed and the tendency is she will take it on her fiance. When this happens, your wedding might turn out to be disastrous. If you don't want these things happening in your own wedding, hire a wedding coordinator. These are experts in the field and they have been in business so they will surely make sure that you'll have the wedding that you have been dreaming of. Because this is their job, they have all the connections needed to make things work. Some even have destination wedding packages for those couples who are more daring. For couples, you need to come up with a plan and there are three methods to achieve it.
The first thing you need to do is to set your budget. A wedding coordinator will have a plan laid out for you that includes all the costs involved that are itemized. If you think the cost is within your budget then you can go through with it, or else, choose another plan. An efficient planner will usually have a backup plan prepared for you. Make sure that you don't go over budget so that you won't encounter problems in your celebration.

Second, determine a concept for your wedding. Will it be a beach wedding, a garden wedding or something traditional? If you decide to have a destination wedding, make sure you actually go there and get a feel for yourself. Somehow, you would know if the place is right for you.

Third, choose a good location. The four seasons will give you a wide array of options to choose from. Having a destination wedding package would make it easier to decide on the location to set the wedding. During summer, for instance, you can go for a beach wedding or perhaps a wedding in a ranch. If you have decided to have a beach wedding, decide whether it will take place at sunrise or at sunset. Since it's your wedding, you have the freedom to do anything you want. As long as you and your guests are all safe, you can think about the most unique way to get wed and it will be good.

Planning can allow you to focus on things so you will definitely avoid unnecessary expenses, thus, you can save on your costs. Planning will make sure that everything will be in your control so the chances of things happening that are unexpected is minimal.
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Monday, March 29, 2010

When You Know What You Want, You Can Will Get It

I have a post card on my wall at home saying: “You need to have a dream to have a dream come true.” These words help me lift my thoughts above the small entanglements I meet in my everyday life and think about where I really want to go, in the long run. It makes me smile, and to keep my hope up. It gives strength to keep on walking.

Dreams are important. It wasn't before I defined my dream of a close and long term relationship that I could lift my head above those casual flings with tourists, toy boys or “cruel but hot” men and find my lovely partner. When I defined my dream about what kind of love life I wanted, I saw what was really important to me and I started looking in the right direction. Not wasting another minute on the wrong boys.

I want you to have a great love life too! I want you to feel passion, butterflies and harmony – with a new partner or the one you're with now. I know you can! By turning your thoughts around a bit, you can get there in no time.

To reach your goal you need to have a goal. You need to see that bright future in front of you and drool.
Unfortunately, many people are today stuck in status quo (like unwanted singledom or unhappy relationships) because they have neither a stick nor a carrot to motivate them to move in any direction.
On one hand there is no longer a stick in the shape of a strong culture telling us that we have to settle. It is considered totally ok to be single no matter how old you are; it is even seen as cool and trendy.

Your mum might be asking the itchy question “so when will I get grand children”, but we are individualistic enough to say “so what” and live as we please anyway. And since both men and women work and educate themselves nowadays, we don't have to pair up to survive. Hence, there is nothing strongly pushing us towards a relationship.

On the other hand there is no longer a carrot in the shape of a clear dream of how life should be. In a world filled with divorces, dramas, a myriad of life styles to choose from, we don't really know what love is. Is that the stuff they show in the movies? Is it my mate's booooring 2 kids-and a mortgage-life or my dad's fourth marriage? Who knows? When we were 17 it was all innocent and pretty. At 30 we are all confused.

It is natural to be a bit afraid of getting rejected and hurt. If you fall for someone there is a risk of loosing. You might be hurt, humiliated or wounded. There might be entanglements. This is relevant for those who already are attached, but have problems letting go totally.
If we were super motivated to go for a true love and a relationship we would overcome the fear, but since there is no stick and no carrot pushing us, many stay where they are, not strongly motivated to move an inch.

To find true love you have to want it so much you don't care about the risks. You may be terrified, but you want it so much you just throw yourself out there, head first.
Are you that motivated? I mean, do you really want it – that close, deep relationship that makes you a part of a team, sharing ups and downs with someone? Most singles I meet don't have a clue about where they are going. They just keep on “hunting”, being more focused on looking than finding. More into the pursuit than the happiness. Or they just live next to their partner, not knowing where they are going or where.

I know a lot of people crave true “love”, but I also know through coaching hundreds of singles, that very many are not really sure of what that “love” is. They want it because they are supposed to want, because the hunt is fun or because they deep inside miss something. But since the Dream is so unclear, they keep falling into traps all the time. Dating the wrong type of people. Being too scared to ask. Ruining growing relationships with dramas.
  1. Find a big, big piece of paper and put it in front of you. Make sure you have glue, pens, scissors and a stash of magazines and news papers. 
  2. Put on some nice relaxing music and close your eyes for a while. Remember times in your life when you were really happy. Remember people you love and loved. Think about friends who are in happy relationships. Find out what makes you smile and sparkle.
  3. Now open your eyes and get to work. Define your dream relationship using your tools. Choose pictures in the mags and glue them on to the paper. Write important words about for example:
    • How you feel
    • How you make your partner feel
    • What you do together
    • Who you spend time with
    • Your energy
    • How you communicate
    • What is important
  4. Put the paper in a place where you can see it clearly every day. This is where you are going! This is your dream.
  5. Say out loud: “My dream is to have a relationship that is…(whatever you have defined) I will now be true to my heart and have the courage to move towards my dream. Now that I have a dream my dream will come true.”
Now you will be more focused and naturally brave. You know what you want and deserve, so you act, think and behave in this direction, towards true love. You flirt with people who have great values instead of just great biceps. You hold your head, and not just your heals, high. You have a different look, a more honest smile. You ask for more, and more will be given to you. It's not magic at all. It is you creating your own, better future. You are adapting to your new life, and through that adapting you make it happen.

So do the Dream exercise and bring on that happy love life! Why live another day without true love, when you can easily get it? When you have a dream, you can have your dream come true. Sweet dreams!
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Wednesday, March 3, 2010

5 Reasons Why Women Dump Men

Why do women dump men? There may be many reasons, but there are a few main ones that we will discuss in this article. Women are complicated creatures. So it is no wonder that men are left wondering what they are thinking most of the time. But keep reading to uncover a few of the main reasons why women dump men.

One big reason why women dump men is because of jealousy. A man that is constantly questioning his wife or girlfriend of her whereabouts or flying off the handle if she talks to another man will drive her away pretty quickly. Jealous men can sometimes become dangerous men. No woman in her right mind is going to stick around to see if that happens.

A lot of men are so involved in their work or with their friends that they cannot give a woman the attention that she needs. Most women do not like to be left alone and crave the attention of the man that they love. But if a man is working all the time or going out with his buddies, this says to a woman that she is far down on the his list of priorities. Why would a woman want to stick around if she is treated like this?

There are some men out there that have real control issues. He thinks that everyone should do as he says. He will try to control the way his wife or girlfriend dresses, talks, walks, if and where she works, etc. A lot of times, this over controlling behavior will advance into full blown abuse. The abuse may be physical or emotional.

Another big reason why women dump men is because the man is “too nice.” A woman wants a man that will stand up for himself and debate her on issues. She doesn’t want a man that is going to agree with everything she says. She doesn’t want a man that will give in to her every time they have a fight. A woman wants a man that knows who he is and what he wants from life. She wants someone who will argue with her and stand up for her. In other words, if you want to keep your woman, then don’t be a “wuss.”

Women will leave a man that does not treat her with respect. Men shouldn’t belittle a woman for her feelings, interests or her profession. When a man is constantly insulting his wife or girlfriend, then he should not be surprised when she walks out the door for good. Women need and deserve respect from the men that they care about.

So there you have five very good reasons why women dump men. Any of these problems can be worked out if both parties are willing to do so. Once both people in a relationship learn how to treat each other, the relationship will blossom.
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Wednesday, February 17, 2010

How To Get My Ex Back

Breaking up with your partner, the person you love, is one of the worst things that can happen to you. "How to get my ex back?" will be the question going round and round in your mind. You may feel lost and bewildered, and very much alone.

If only I could recapture my ex lover's heart and soul - if only I hadn't said that, done this - if only I could turn back time! But time moves on remorselessly - and you need some kind of plan to save your relationship, some way to get my ex back.

All is not lost - there are things you can do. Most relationships can be saved - and even become stronger and firmer once you learn how to get back together. And, strange as this might seem, accepting that break-ups are not unusual, can be repaired and even strengthen the bond you share -to accept that having a break-up is actually "OK", is part of the process of getting back together.

But if you truly feel that you want to get my ex back, then sitting back and waiting for it to happen is simply not enough! You will need to take steps to heal the rift. And to do this you need to step back, look from the outside and calm your turbulent mind down a few notches. Your feelings of hurt, anger and pain will only cloud the issue - you need to let them go while you find a clear strategy to get back your ex.

Looking at how you yourself behaved may bring you to realise that van apology is in order. This can be difficult to do - you may only have one chance to find the right words and the best way to deliver it. While this has to be in-keeping with who you are, this may be the time to take advice. But don't let just anyone tell you what to do in such a crucial situation. You need advice from someone who has helped many other people with proven strategies. You need to get this right! A search on the Internet may find you some of the answers.

"Getting on with your life" is often suggested. Well, yes, it's good to let your loved ones know that you are a confident, well- balanced individual, with interests and experiences all of your own. But, if the thought in your mind is "how to get my ex back" then you will need to ensure that they know that you care - and care enough to make that apology, to be there for them when they need you, to really work at doing what is important for your relationship. To make your love a long-lasting, strong partnership . "How to get my ex back? may be the most important question you have ever asked yourself.
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Thursday, February 11, 2010

The Concept of Love

"Love" is a term, which serves many functions; so much so that in many instances its usage lacks content. "Love" is a shout heard externally, a banner bandied about, which many people encircle and seek, but whichfew understand. Newspaper headlines continually project "unfounded hate" but never "unfounded love"? What of this love with its meaningful essence and character? And what of those persons who live such a love? On this, we hear nothing. And we may assume that the condition will not change so long as the slogan of love is presented as artificial jargon, rather then as as internal and essential value; or as a cosmetic and habitual motto, rather than as a fulfilling and multi-significant experience.

Thes research paper concerns itself with the concept "love" as it relates to humanity according to the following criteria:

(a its source, (b its character, and finally (c the way to embgody and express it, all according to the perception of Maimonides, may his name be remembered in Righteousness and Blessing. In accordance with the dictum in the Talmud saying, "Torah learning is greater when it leads to action, "let it be His Will that this treatment of the concept will be a steppingstone to achieve love in our thought, speech and actions.

A. THE SOURCE OF LOVE

Chapters 51 and 52 of Section 3 of Maimonides` THE GUIDE TO THE PERPLEXED discuss knowing the Almighty as the source from which the love of G-d, grows. We learn that the source of love is knowing G-d, and to acheeve it one must cling to the spiritual concept that is liarned in the comment, "Didn`t I explain to you that this is the intellect that abounds in us from the Holy One; it is the attachment" which which exists between us and Him? We understand the source of love as the concentration of man`s thought in G-d, or the knowledge of G-d.

Maimonides joins the religious ideal of attaining G-d as the source of love with the philosophic ideal of a life of reflection. True, the purpose of man is reflection, but the purpose of reflection reflects the source of love, the knowledge of G-d. However the fundamental questions are asked: What is love`s explanatin, and what is the meaning of the knowledge of G-d? And how can man, in general, arrive at the source of this knowledge as a prelude to love?

Regarding these questions, it is worthwhile consedering the central chapter of the system of descriptions, THE GUIDE, Section 1, Chapter 54. There, Maimonides relies on Moses, Our Rabbi, and says that he requested two wishes from the Almighty: one, "that He should show him His strength and His truth," that is, that G-d should reveal His might before him; and two, that G-d "should describe Himself to him." On these requests G-d replied to Moses that His might is incomprehensible, and His descriptions are His acts. It is impossible, then, to know G-d from the aspect of His might, although it is possible to know Him from the aspect of His acts. The descriptions of G-d which embody Him to us are discriptions of actions. Thus, all the descriptions of which the Almighty notified Moses were descriptive of actions: merceful, gracious, forbearing. The ways in which Moses requested their knowledge and by which he was notified of them were through awareness of His acts, may His name be blesed. The Sages called these acts "attributes" naming them collectively "The Thirteen Attributes." (XXXIV:6-7)

Knowing G-d as the source of love is even called by the name "the pure thought." This is learned from the words of Maimonides in THE GUIDE, Section, Chapter 21, "That the pure thought, according to it will be love; it is the essential knowledge of G-d Himself." This direct attachment of love to knowledge teaches that the essence of the idea love did not, according to Maimonides, include the psychological eddect and the emotional experience. The source of the love of G-d is practical, thoughtful and not emotional. (See GUIDE,III:54 "`And you will love your G-d with all your heart` means with all of the strength of your heart.") Essentially, Maimonides sought to free the love of G-d from its emotional content and to turn it into a pure achievement. This approach is expressed at the end of THE GUIDE.

B. THE NATURE OF LOVE

The nature of love is purposeful. This is expressed in the fifth chapter o Maimonides` EIGHT CHAPTERS: Man must activate all the strengths of his soul to know... and will place before him at all times one purpose, and it is the attaining of G-d, may He be blessed, according to the ablility of the person to know Him. And he will offer all his acts, movements, strengths and whatever else he has to arrive at this purpose, such that none of his acts will be vain acts, meaning an act that will not lead to this purpose.

Love bears the purposeful nature of similarity to G-d and walking in His path. This assumes the form of love of attainment whose essence is attachment to the love of G-d. Maimonides set forth the decree of Jeremiah, XIX:22-3

Do not praise the wise man for his wisdom and the strong for his strengtyh and the wealthy for understanding and knowing Me that I am The Almighty who does kindness, justice and generosity on earth, in which I delighted in G-d`s address.

Jeremiah does not stop with the words "understanding and knowing Me," and this that did not suffice him for the verse to expain, is that their attacnment alone, may He be blessed, is that which venerates perfection.

The nature of love is also ethical; meaning that attainment of the knowledge of G-d is, in effect, awareness of ethical G-dly characteristics. And furthermore, the purposeful nature, which is in love, is an ethica purpose of the life of man in general. It is knowledge, the knowledge of G-d, though the purpose of this knowledge itself is ethical. Rational perfection os a characteristic of the love of man for G-d, and ethical perfection is a characteristic of the love of G-d for man.

Also, we discover an entirely new picture of Maimonides` thought on man and the nature of man`s love of G-d: Man does not trek towards the love of G-d in a straight line, but in a circular line. The way is that of ethics and knowing G-d, though the path does not end at this point. It returns and is overturned: From knowing G-d there develops a return to the ethical attributes, and the ethical nature of the love of G-d is in the awareness of the G-dly attributed. This means that attaining G-d is essentially attaining His works. Maimonides continues, (GUIDE,III:24) "It is not appropriate to praise only for the attainment of the knowlidge of His ways and His descriptions." His acts being synonymous with His descriptions, we may therefore deduce that we must seek to know His acts in order to perform them. Again, the intention is to replicate the thirteen attributes in order that we may walk in their ways.

But, how is it possible that man will walk in the path of The Almighty? That is, how can man replicate G-d and imitate His deeds? How can we understand this characteristic of love, which is the very fruit of love? To resolve these questions, we must fundamentally distinguish between act and effect. In man, the act results from the spiritual effect, from some creation or quality within the soul, whereas the acts of G-d do not result from a spiritual characteristic or from any essence.

Maimonides stresses this in his discourse on the descriptions of the acts in general saying, (GUIDE, I: 54) "This matter is not one of attributes, but of deeds similar to the acts which come to us from the attributes." That is, the acts of G-d are similar to ours, but there is no comparison in the causes inducing the actions. The acts of G-d do not result from any effect or spiritual characteristic, but they are as if they result from effects. The appellations "graciousness" and "mercy" and "slow to anger" are not understook as G-d loves or pities (or even hates). The understanding is only that the acts resulting from G-d result as if from love, mercy or hate. Now the term replication is understood: This characteristic of love os the walking in the path of G-d, the imitation of His acts. There os no replication from the aspect of effects or spiritual charactersitics. The replication is not in the spiritual realm, but in deeds.

To summarize, the nature of love is intellectual rationalism, an act approaching truth, which is knowledge of G-d; the nature of love is purposedul and reflective, knowing G-d so that we may walk in His ways; and at a certain level, love bears an ethical character.

C. THE WAY TO EMBODY AND EXPRESS LOVE

Theapex of process-reflective devotion is nothing other than reflective exertion toward the awareness o G-d. Reflective awareness is a processs of absorbing a reflective abundance from G-d by means of the active intelligence. This turns the human intelligence into a bridge between G-d and man. This bridge is dependent on man alone, in his intelligence and in his concentration of his thought upon The Almighty. Therefore, in the strengthening of his intellect, man will come to the love of G-d.

This reflection, however, is not only the theoretical, philosophical intelligence; it is also bound to the internal emotion of man. Intelligence, according to Maimonides, (GUIDE,III:51) is not only rationalistic speculation; it includes the sphere of feelings and emotions.

At a certain plateau love no longer remains in anything other than the beloved, and this is termed by Maimonides (Ibid) with the appellation "desire." This love is already planted in the material of the desire in a way that perfects it, leading us to conclude that the true belief is the religion of love.

Man has a purpose, and it is the attainment of G-d. Man will attain G-d through his entire deeds. Moral and ethical conducts serve as a preparation and as a means for this purpose. Man will not arrive at the supreme purpose if he will not control his morality. If he will not restrain his desires, if he will not internally discipline himself, if he will not improve his understanding and will not strengthen his will, he will not arrive at the supreme ethical stratum.

In the YAD HAHAZAKAH, Maimonides explains, "The revered and fearful G-d commands to love and fear Him, as it is written, `and love your G-d, ` and it is also writtten, `The Lord your G-d you will fear. `" How is it possible to both love and fear Him? It is possible at the time when man will observe His acts and His marvelous creations and see in them His wisdom, which has no measure and no end. Maimonides states further, in the MISHNEA TORAH, (Book I, p.36) "The servant from love studies Torah and follows the Commandments and walks in the ways of the wise not cecause of something in the world, and not because he will otherwise see evil, and not in order to inherit good; but he does the truth because it is truth and resultantly ends favorably..." Then, man will love G-d with a great love, overflowing and mighty, such that his soul will be linked to the love of G-d, G-d as a unity, with all his deeds in the name of Heaven for the sake of the attainment of G-d and performance of the Commandments for their sake alone.

CONCLUSION

According to current and classical thought thought, love is an essential need of each and every indinidual, although the nature and purpose of love is sometimes misconstrued. The essential love is the love of G-d, and the way to achiece it is through the intellect. The ultimate effect o this process is the attainment of G-d and the doing of His Commandments. In closing, we cite the "blessing of love" (Recited in the morning prayer service before the SHMA) which, in for man and man`s love for G-d.
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Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Even If You Are Afraid Of Flirting And Dating

  • Are you afraid of being rejected?
  • Do you fear getting hurt when being involved with someone?
  • Are you scared of saying or doing the wrong thing on a date?
  • Do you fear letting go of your freedom as a single?
Well, you're not alone. Sometimes I get the feeling that singles look at dating and flirting as a horror movie. Most people I meet in my job as a love coach are deep down so scared that they start acting weird – and therefore stay single.

To be successful, find true love and live happily ever after, you need to embrace the fear and go for it anyway. Even the bravest of the brave feel fear, but the key to their courage is that they don't fear stop them! They feel the tingling in their bellies and they still do whatever they are afraid of.
Three things singles do out of fear and what you can do to handle it better.

1. You date many at the same time. It gives you a feeling of having a big safety net to fall in if one of the people you are seeing dumps you. But if you deep down assume you will be dumped, that is likely to happen, so expect instead success - and reach success. Dare to focus on one person and do your best. You are much more attractive when you're committed and concentrated on one person.

2. You don't date at all or finish every time it's heating up or they want to meet you irl. This keeps you away from getting the emotions that could be strong both up and down. Stop being such a coward and get out there! You won't find the love of your life in your apartment. Think: “What is the worst thing that can happen? Can I live with that?” And then think: “What is the best thing that can happen? Do I want that?”

3. You find faults in everyone you meet or don't believe in true love. Being bitter and picky keeps you away from true love where you yourself can be judged. Realize there is no such thing as a perfect person. No person will ever be 100 % - not even you... If you're open for 85 % partners you can find a true relationship instead of being single. It is not about taking Second best; it's about choosing to fall in love instead of being alone and waiting.

Other things we also do out of fear: We only date people who are “impossible”, like too young, already married or over seas; we stop having feelings for anyone at all or we scare people away, being clingy and desperate. In short, we sabotage for ourselves when we don´t have faith. But dear single, you should trust love! Fear is a part of life. It's natural to be scared of new things. You put your heart out there, and it could be dangerous so I'm not telling you to stop being scared – I'm telling you to accept the fear and do what you want anyway!

If you keep doing what you do today, you will get what you have today – not more. So loooove the scary parts of dating. Go for even more blind dates - and realise it wasn´t that bad after all! Tell more people you like them! Commit and get involved. Find true love. Feel alive! You will love it.
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