Are Men Romantic?

Nancy Kalish, Ph.D. is the author of Lost & Found Lovers, a book about her research on people who go back to lost loves. She has been doing this work for 11 years, and has a web site, www,lostlovers.com, with a discussion board. Now she has completed a new survey of adults who have not tried a reunion with a lost love. Her findings suggest that men may be more "romantic" than women.

We too often define "romantic" in women's terms -- the flowers and cards, saving items and putting them in a scrapbook or listening to romantic songs all day long.The men may not do these things, but they do something more romantic than all that:

Dr. Kalish's survey asked "how long did it take for you to get over your lost love?' The men tended to take longer to get over a lost love than the women. And some of the men were not satisfied with the survey choices.. The last choice listed was, "Over 10 years."Only the men crossed out all the choices and wrote, "I never got over her." While no doubt some women never got over their lost loves either, only the men wrote this comment in the margins.

Adolescent boys are not supposed to cry for a lost love. But many of Dr. Kalish's male participants cried hard, in private, nightly...for months.This is not just a reunion phenomenon. Dr. Kalish is finding the same results in her First Love experience survey - for adults who have never tried a reunion with a lost love. There are significantly more men who chose to answer this survey
than women, and they express strong feelings for their first loves, even though they have not contacted her (and may never do so).

Members of Dr. Kalish's web site, who are permitted to post messages, seem to be more represented by women than men. But Kalish warns that appearances are misleading. There are slightly more men who paid to join than women. The men don't post as often as the women
-- but they are reading!

Men are less likely to initiate leaving their marriages than women, and over the last few years, there is little difference between the number of men who have affairs versus the number of women. As more women entered the workplace, they found the same temptations there.Dr. Kalish also offers private phone consultations. Men more often want to talk to her about their lost loves than
women.

But it is a rare magazine that is pitched to men that will print a story about love and romance. The media think men are uninterested. Not so!

As Valentine's Day approaches, we should all remember that men express themselves differently -- and that does not mean worse than -- women. If women want men to open up, says Kalish, they have to take men on their own terms, not try to make them express their feelings like a woman would.Men may not make scrapbooks of their love experiences, but they are every bit as loving, loyal, and yes, romantic, as women.

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Choosing the Right Watch for Men

When it comes to choosing the right watch for men is the purpose. Why do you want to buy a men's watch? From there, you can determine the features you are looking for in a watch and get a great value out of it.

For one thing, men's watches are very useful in many ways. It is an accessory, a timekeeper, a date tracker, a timer, and so much more. It is undeniable that men would really look for a watch that will serve a lot of purpose to cope with their lifestyle. Furthermore, men would simply make sure that they get a great value of their money.

The best men's watch then would simply be hip, sporty, casual, luxurious, precise, and can last for generations. The question now is, "Is there such watch that has all the mentioned qualities that a watch should have?"

Men's Seiko Watches are created to meet the needs and the preferences of men when it comes to time pieces. These watches are guaranteed to have all the features that men would commonly look for in a watch. Men's Seiko Watches make sure that they meet the demands and lifestyle of men today.

Every Men's Seiko Watch comes with the automatic function that guarantees a lifetime usage because of the mechanism that do not require the use of batteries to make it work. And because of the engineering applied to the Seiko watches, the size would be relatively bigger, making it more hip for men.

Also the external features of Men's Seiko Watches should match the getup of men wherever they are since men are known to be on the go with nothing much accessories to wear but a watch so the design therefore need to be versatile as well. Seiko watches are so stylish that they can be worn at any occasion and avail of the usefulness of such watches anytime. Contributing to such style are the face, the strap, the color and the overall plating of Men's Seiko Watches.

One of the useful features of Men's Seiko Watches are the rotating bezel feature of Men's Seiko Watches gives a difference compared to other watches that make them useful to calculate average speed and distance or for elapsed time tracking. Also, the built-in illumination function can also be seen in some of the Men's Seiko Watches.

Men's Seiko Watches precision in keeping and telling time and date is exemplary, and it amazingly functions automatically. With these features of Men's Seiko Watches plus the affordability it has, Men's Seiko Watches are really the best buy in choosing the best men's watch.

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Tips to Find the Right Loving Man

Finding the right man is not only based on chance and fate but you also have to make a plan to find the man of your dreams. He will not just appear right in front of you. There are things you can do to find the right loving man. In the dating scene now, finding your Mr. Right could be a real challenge if you do not know how.

Here are some tips to find the right loving man for you:
Know what you want and be realistic about it. This is the first thing that you must do. Know what you want and of course you have to be realistic about it.  If you are the type of person who is quiet, conservative and religious, you know what type of man is good for you. If you are the outgoing and adventurous type, then you know what type of man you are looking for. Knowing what you want will make it easier for you to find the right loving man for you. But still you have to be realistic about everything and be open-minded with other possibilities.

Do not limit your selection. Some women have the perfect picture of Mr. Right on their minds and immediately reject those who do not fall into their criteria. It doesn't mean that you will settle for less but it means you have to open the doors to other options and be open-minded. Start looking around you because you might be missing other opportunities to find the right loving man.
Do not be deceived by looks, fame and success. It is a bonus to find a man who has the looks and success that every woman is looking for but it doesn't mean that average looking guys do not deserve your love and attention. There are a lot of women who found happiness and love with a guy that most women won't date. Material things and looks should not be the basis when you want to find the right loving man.

Prepare yourself. Of course you have to be emotionally and physically prepared to meet the man of your dreams. You have to be complete and satisfied as a person to find the right loving man for you. It is easier to find the man of your dreams if you are comfortable and have accepted yourself including your flaws. Loving someone is easier if you know how to love yourself. People including men want to be with someone who is not insecure and satisfied with who she really is. 

Finding the right man is not as hard as you think. Did you know that you can be the woman that men adored? Do you want to understand men and create a lasting relationship with the man you've always wanted?

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Loving Relationships

Are you eager to get your man to make a commitment to you and he's not budging? Have you talked about it, telling him what you want, but he's not caving in? Do you think he'd change his mind if you threatened to leave him? That threat could very well blow up in your face, so before you make that move, ask yourself if you're truly prepared to leave. If not, take a look at this article and see where you might have veered off course.

If you've decided to drop everything you've ever had going on in your life to spend more time with him, you might be putting more strain on the relationship than you realize. Even if he's madly in love with you, time apart is important in virtually all relationships. Think yours is different? Don't just assume this because the idea pleases you. If you're going to be spending every waking moment with him, make sure he's that eager to be with you.

Even so, if a commitment is what you want, time apart could make him miss you and long to be with you even more. Spend enough time apart and he might even wonder what you're up too. Could he be losing you? That'll get him moving.

However, you still need to consider where your relationship is. Have you taken control of everything? Are you as happy as can be because he always lets you have your way? Is this the perfect relationship because you always win an argument?

While you might be seeing this in a positive light, he could be growing weary of your constant need to control, your inability to let him do things his way and your confrontational manner.
If you want him to give up the single life and sign up for a life long commitment with you, you better be sure that time with you is more pleasant than time alone. If not, you might be the one who'll end up alone.

Tending to his needs, making sure he feels happy and fulfilled in the relationship and giving him reason to believe that life with you will always be like this, he'll be more than happy to commit.

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Why is Real Friendship Thus Hard to Find?

The answer to the present question very revolves around what you concentrate on to be 'true friendship.' It is inevitable that you'll meet folks in your life with whom you have got a deep connection, but then ultimately lose contact. Will that mean that they weren't a true friend, or did circumstances drive you apart?
However is real friendship primarily based on contact? Or is it primarily based on dependability; knowing that irrespective of how long it's been, you'll call that person and they'd help you out of a jam.

Others could contemplate real friendship a relationship where they'll make merry, be relaxed and never force conversation.

No matter your definition of real friendship, it's clear that it will usually be exhausting to find, and even tougher to carry onto.
Convenience

This will be a big killer when trying to search out real friendship. Friendships may appear real at the time, only for one or both parties to lose interest once the friendship is no longer convenient. Along with this, you'll meet someone abroad, or at a celebration of a mutual friend and establish a bond; however if you live far apart then this will not necessarily endure, whether or not the affiliation was real at the time, as a result of the correct circumstances don't appear to be their to permit it to flourish.

During a truly international world, folks staying in one place long enough to form a real bond is tougher than you will think. Things and folks modification rapidly and without warning.

Growing Apart
This will be an enormous issue when wondering what people would term 'real friendship.' You will still frequently see the one who was your ally at age 5, but is it a true association still, or are you simply carrying on as a result of that is the way you have continuously been? I am not saying that it is not possible for friendships to endure, however it is additionally possible for them to become a habit.

The Love Factor
This is often particularly, but not solely a drawback for cross gender friendships. Films like 'When Harry Met Sally' exemplify this problem nicely. You'll assume that you've got struck up a deep and meaningful, real friendship with somebody, only to find later on down the road that they'd exactly one reason for interest in you. It's additionally attainable to find that what was a true friendship to start with blossoms solely on one side, ultimately destroying the bond.

Don't Despair
Once all this doom and gloom I would very like to feature a lighter note; it is potential to search out real friendship. Like finding love, you are doing have to depart yourself open and this does let in the nice and so the bad. But, the rewards are thus nice in finding real friendship that it's price the trials. Build time for the new individuals that you simply meet; do not assume that they do not wish to be friends - most individuals are open and nice, irrespective of what you may believe. Be friendly and place yourself out there, and the probabilities are highly in your favour that you may notice the important friendship that will last you a lifetime.

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What Men Are Saying

A fortnight ago, I wrote on what a woman wants to hear from her husband and people accused me that I was being biased. So I have decided to write on what the men are trying to say to their wives.

Over the years, women have historically complained that men don't understand them, many men believe they are the ones who are the most misunderstood whether it is in the work-place, at home or even in the bedroom.

Indeed, many times it is a break-down in communications, disconnection between what a man says or feels and a woman hears or believes that is at the root of infidelity, financial problems, physical abuse, spiritual bankruptcy or any other obstacles that threatens fruitful relationships. Men in particular are in a tough situation because they don't usually express themselves as well as women. Many times when a man keeps things bottled-up inside of him, it gives his lady the go-ahead to define him as she wishes, (giving her) the go-ahead to decide for herself what he likes and dislikes, what emotions he feels, when he feels them, how long he feels them and whether he should ever feel them again. Soon she believes she knows what is best for him. You know women, give them an inch, they take a mile.

The best-kept secret in a man-woman game is that women for the most part are not even close in their assessment of the needs and hopes of their men. In fact, many women don't know the men they have helped to create. They rely on snap sayings and old cliches. they rely on what other women tell them. They don't take the time to talk to their man, to ask him what he wants. Women need to do a lot more listening to men.

So what would a man really like to tell his lady if he felt he had the freedom to do so and if he felt that his honesty would not result in misunderstanding, hurt feelings and ugly arguments?
Every man wants his woman to really understand him. Some relationship experts say many times men bury their true being under a façade of masculinity. Some men believe that women have been a major cause of pent-up feelings that men experience.

A man wants the woman to help him learn how to love her. Loving a woman many times requires training and instructions, which men are afraid to ask for and women assume men should know. To be honest, men do not have the tools to love. Everyone expects you to flip a switch when you enter into a relationship, but it does not work that way. Many have been trained from the time they were little boys to be tough. I do not agree with some women who say men do not have a heart. Men have a heart, but many times they simply do not know how to connect with it. Problem also comes when men are afraid to ask for help.

Many men feel that women have trouble saying good things about them, but have no trouble at all communicating the things they feel are wrong. Every man wants assurances that he is number one in your life. A man wants his woman to acknowledge how hard he works to keep the family housed, fed and clothed. He wants to hear his woman say she feels safe with him and feels that he is a good provider and protector. A man feeds off praises from his woman. But many times he feels like all he gets is criticism.

A man wants his woman to encourage his openness. To be a man means never showing emotions. But while most men won't admit it, what many long to do is to cry, to laugh, to love, to lower their guard and not feel like they have to always be oblivious to the softer side of life. There is only one problem, men believe women will call them weak if they show emotions.

It has been said that there are only five situations in which a man truly feels free to show emotion - during war, while playing sports, during a fight, while intoxicated and at a funeral.
This pent-up emotion is at the root of much of the anxiety, frustration, a general sense of powerlessness a man feels. Many men want to move beyond the superficial nature of some relationships, and into more concrete unions, built on realistic expectations and goals. Many men believe, even when he is doing all that he can, his lady is never satisfied. Women have said men have a white standard of beauty, some men believe women have a white socio-economic standard when it comes to measuring success.

Some men won't admit it, but many feel they cannot win. At one end is the "man" trying to keep him down. At the other end is his woman who cannot understand why he is down. A man sometimes feels like he is running as fast as he can and cannot do anymore. He is afraid to talk about the things that he is doing to keep up and why it seems like he can never get ahead. He needs the support and understanding of his woman.

Everyman wants the woman to be a romantic. Most men feel that in a woman's push to be a career woman, between her business meetings, late nights at the office, she has forgotten what it takes to make a relationship work. One way to keep pep in a man's step is by continuing to add mystery and romance in a relationship. A man wants his woman to wear that perfume that he likes, whisper in his ear, prepare candle light dinners. But nowadays, it seems like romance is a lost art among many women.

A man also wants you to attend to his needs. When he comes home at the end of the day after a hard day's job, he wants a woman who makes it clear that she is glad he is home, just like a woman wants to be pampered, caressed, held tight by her man who loves her for her, so a man wants to be pampered, caressed, held tight and loved, not for the money that he makes or the job that he holds.

He is not looking for an argument when he walks in the door. He is looking for a smile, a hug from his lady, her re-assurance that they are in the battle together, them against the world, and that nothing will ever come between them. A man wants a lady to be more comfortable with her sexuality. Men realize that the pervasive stereotype that women are too hard is just that, a stereotype. Nothing pleases a man more than a woman who knows how to spice up things in the romance department. More than anything else, a man wants a woman who knows how to have a good time, a woman who can be uninhibited at times, experimental at times, playful at times, and carefree at times.

Above all, a man wants the woman to be the ultimate lady. Sure, it is a tough world out there for women. Many of who have to juggle full-time careers and family duties. But is it necessary to bring the dragons layer mentality home with you? Men would like their women to leave their hard edge at the front door and exhibit their soft, feminine side more at home. The "I will whip anyone who gets in my way" mentality that some women possess 24 hours a day is a big turn-off to some men.

So ladies, you now have an idea of what your man has been trying to say to you. So learn to please your man and he will be yours for life.

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Dating Online

 3 Tips to Increase Your Chances of Finding the Perfect Match

So you're single and maybe getting tired of going on blind dates or going around the dating scene. It can be quite tiring, getting all through feelings of anxiety and anticipation that comes with dating someone for the first time, especially if one out of three men you've dated turns out to be a creep.
One way to quell your frustrations with dating is to try online dating sites that have thousands of men or women who are usually in the same boat as you are - trying to find that perfect match that will make their lives complete. These websites usually suggest some matches that fit your profile or those who have the same likes and dislikes as you do and do so based on the profile that you post about yourself.

If you want to give these online dating sites a try, here are a few dating online tips that you need to remember, just so you would be able to make the most of the experience:

1. Be safe.
That's the first rule of the game, when it comes to dating both offline or online. Remember that not all people you meet online are what they say they are. Come to think of it, one who's actually registered as a female, may be a male after all, and worst, someone who creates a picture of being gentle and kind may actually have criminal records!
 There are many online predators and a good dating online tip to keep in mind is that you have to be vigilant and try to find out as much as you could from the person you are connecting with.

2. Update your profile.
An updated profile will help the computer find the match for you. Sometimes there are many changes in your life that can affect what you are looking for as a perfect match. Make sure that you indicate these changes on your online profile so that the software can narrow down choices for you.

3. Give it time.
Don't rush into a relationship with the person suggested by the online dating site as a perfect match for you. One of the sensible dating online tips you need to remember is that it is always best to get to know the other person first before getting into a relationship. Try to find out as much as you could about the other person, such as things that you both have in common. It will be difficult to get into a relationship right away only to be frustrated when you get to know the person's real character later.

Dating online tips are sometimes displayed on online dating sites. Try to check out these tips and keep them in mind before you even ask for an eyeball meeting with another person. There are many people who have found their perfect matches through the internet, and you could too, as long as you keep in mind that your safety comes first.

5 Tips To Help You Know If It's A Perfect Match

There are many options now for single men and women when it comes to dating and finding a date. People who may be too busy or may not have the interest to go on blind dates or do the dating scene, may find some help through online matching websites. It may seem difficult at first or even strange to be trying to connect with someone whom you haven't seen yet and where the only clue you get on who they are is the information on their profiles. However, if you want to give it a try, here are 5 practical dating tips that can help you make the most of your online dating experience.

1. First, make sure that you operate on the principle of honesty - that you and the person you are dealing with online are being honest with each other and are not trying to impress each other with good, but wrong information. It starts with using your best picture, and yes, your own picture and not some movie star's. The other person is bound to know the truth sooner or later, if the information you post on your profile is simply a figment of your imagination. Just give the picture that shows that part of you that you want to be seen - the funny, the creative, the gentle and caring- whatever part of your personality that you want the other person to appreciate.

2. Here's a good dating tip that you should remember - speak up your mind upfront so that there are no surprises along the way, if the relationship ever progresses. There is no replacement for honesty and you should expect the same from the person you are dealing with.

3. Another dating tip is that you should study their profiles first before you even try to make a connection. There are still some unscrupulous characters on the web that really target people who log onto dating sites to either scam or play with other people's feelings. Profiles say a great deal about people, however, their emails and chat will reveal their characters even more. It is also important to gauge the level of interest that the other person you are trying to connect is trying to show you.

4. Here's one more dating tip you should think about - online dating sites suggest matches for you based on your profile, so try to think about your good side and what your ideal date is. However, the software that these dating sites use can only suggest that much, and it doesn't mean that the people they find is really the perfect match for you. That's really for you to find out.

5. One last dating tip - get some feel of the other person's character through emails and chat, before you decide to meet. Stay safe all the time and be smart in dealing with other people online.

 

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Short Men Can't Get Girlfriends? That's a Tall Story!

There may have been plenty of surveys alleging that taller men find it much easier to get a girlfriend, or wife, and stay single for less time than their vertically challenged counterparts, but does the reality bear this out?

For, when you start to think about it, the list of successful shorter chaps with willowy women on their arm seems almost endless.

Mick Jagger, for example, at 5ft 10ins, is stepping out with fashion stylist L'Wren Scott, six inches taller than him. He has also dated model Sophie Dahl, another six footer, and been married to beauty Jerry Hall.

Sophie, for her part, has now hit the right note with jazz singer Jamie Cullum, who's six inches shorter than Jagger.

Rod Stewart, the same height as the Rolling Stone, stands three inches shorter than his partner, leggy blonde model Penny Lancaster.

There's even more of a gap between Formula One racing tycoon Bernie Ecclestone and wife Slavica - a whole foot. But that hasn't stopped 5ft 2ins tall Bernie measuring up in her eyes.
And actress Brigitte Neilsen towers over husband Mattia Dessi.

There may be shorter height differences between some other celebrity couples, but it's there nonetheless. Film star Tom Cruise, at 5ft 7ins, is two inches shorter than his wife Katie Holmes, while there is a slightly larger gap between film director Roman Polanski and lofty wife Emmanuelle Seigner and novelist Salman Rushdie and ex-wife Padma Lakshmi.

The list goes on. Height hasn't stood in the way of the career or love life of the pint-sized French President Nicolas Sarkozy, who at 5ft 5ins tall, is married to former model Carla Bruni-Sarkozy, reportedly four inches taller.

Another Hollywood star, 53-year-old Oscar winner Mel Gibson, is expecting a child with his girlfriend, Russian singer Oksana Grigorieva, 14 years his junior. Mel's height is the subject of some dispute, but he's definitely under six foot, while his other half is a beanpole.
Similarly, Billy Joel, just 5ft 5ins tall, has had no trouble finding girlfriends and wives, including Katie Lee and supermodel Christine Brinkley, who, of course, are both much taller than him. (Brinkley is 5ft 9ins.)

There have been many reasons put forward for the reasons for the pulling power of shorter chaps. Some of them are downright patronising - 'taller women prefer shorter guys because they're just more grateful' - wrote one journalist.

Far more plausibly, some say women just appreciate the compact sex appeal of less-than-lofty blokes. (Think Robert De Niro and James Dean.) Others reasons put forward for their success in love are that shorter guys are funnier, more ambitious, better providers, more mature, less likely to be cads and less in love with themselves.

But, whatever the reason, short man/tall woman partnerships are a well-established trend, and they're here to say. So, if you're a diminutive male, having a girlfriend several inches higher than you needn't be a problem, or a tall order. At all.

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